What the devil is going on here?!

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This shit pisses me off. And even more to see it in the Tumblr radar. I don’t care what the post is trying to do but you don’t do it by perpetuating this awful idea. Statistically the genders have the same average IQ. Girls and boys have very similar intelligence with girls finishing marginally ahead in the normal range. However, men are both the most intelligent and least intelligent on the full scale (wow I just sourced, Cara would be proud). In fact, another study in that source suggests men have a higher average IQ.

Of course, the idea that an entire sex is somehow smarter than another is absurd, a gross stereotype, and frankly so school-yard that when I hear women say it I just want to laugh in their face because they just disproved their own statement by stating it. I’m not trying to say either sex is more intelligent than the other or one is superior, because frankly you CAN’T judge in such a vague proportion as gender.

But what is the worst part of this fallacy is that in schools around the world there are boys who get this taunted at them in the playground and they believe it.  PARENTS tell this to their kids all the time. This used to be like an undeniable fact of life when I was kid. Luckily I didn’t buy into it because I could see it wasn’t true. But I have witnessed first hand boys who believed this all through high-school and probably into the rest of their lives. Not to mention girls who believe this all through high-school and still spout this nonsense. It gets used as an excuse, “Oh, well girls are smarter then boys so I won’t try as hard.” It’s not cool.

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"It’s about what girls want to be, what they’re told they should be, and how they feel about who they are. I’ve got two daughters who will have to make their way in this skinny-obsessed world, and it worries me, because I don’t want them to be empty-headed, self-obsessed, emaciated clones; I’d rather they were independent, interesting, idealistic, kind, opinionated, original, funny – a thousand things, before ‘thin’. And frankly, I’d rather they didn’t give a gust of stinking chihuahua flatulence whether the woman standing next to them has fleshier knees than they do. Let my girls be Hermiones, rather than Pansy Parkinsons. Let them never be Stupid Girls."

JK Rowling  (via candidlycara)

(Source: voldem0phobia)

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“Why don’t you go and talk to that girl? She’s checking you out!”

“Can’t. Venustraphobia.”

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If I was a woman I would totally be into clothes and shoes.

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I mean, I kind of am now but girls don’t realise how lucky they have it. Guys’ clothes are so boring.

Before we get drowned in Glee tonight, I’d like to share a personal Darren Criss story that touched my heart.

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delilahlovett:

heyteenageglass:

pavarottilives:

rhilex:

My little brother is the youngest sibling of six— the rest of us five are all girls. Naturally, he’d get dressed up like a paper doll when he was very young. He would want his nails painted, too, when all of us were painting our nails. If we all got cheap necklaces and jewelry in the dollar store, we’d buy some for him, too. Because he didn’t want to feel left out, and really liked that stuff. He’s always liked cars and Spiderman and legos, and all of those stereotypical little boy things. But he also watches my family’s collection of Barbie movies more than anyone else, because he genuinely likes them.

He’s seven years old now, and just finishing up first grade. He’s made a few friends, but today he told me that a couple of kids were laughing at him. I asked him why, and he told me a story. He said he likes all the movies in the world, and the other boys in class asked him “Even the princess ones?”, to which he replied “Yes”. And the boys laughed at him and said he was a girl. I didn’t like seeing him so down, so I asked him if he could come upstairs so I could show him something.

“You know that guy I like— Darren Criss?” He nods. “Well, he likes princess movies, too.”

“He does?” he asks.

“Yes, he loves them! He even sings The Little Mermaid songs at grown-up restaurants because he loves them so much.”

We’ve now reached upstairs, where I sit him on my lap and show him a picture of Darren’s painted Coachella nails on my computer. “See— Darren likes to get his nails painted, too. And he’s also wearing pink here. He doesn’t care what other people say about him, because he just likes this stuff. He likes to wear nail polish, so he just wears it. So, I don’t want you to feel bad when those boys call you names. You just look at them and just say that that’s who you are, and you love yourself that way. You can like princess movies if you want to, okay?”

And my little brother gets all shy. And he smiles at me. And suddenly, there’s no worry in his eyes anymore.

I’m crying writing this now, because it just shows how Darren is a role model just for affecting this one little boy’s life. My little brother hasn’t had a dad to look up to, so I’m glad that I have the opportunity to show him another man who is okay with just being himself, no matter what that is. That it’s okay to like girl stuff, and it doesn’t make him any less of a guy. This is one of the many reasons why I appreciate Darren being true to himself so much. It shows so many other people that it’s okay to be true to themselves, too.

Darren absolutely needs to see this.

I teared up while reading this. 

I love stories like this. This is why I love Darren so much. 

And I started crying. That is beautiful <3

This is amazing. It’s stories like this that show the transformative power and influence that is the responsibility of the famous. It is not only Darren but Glee and all its cast that are using this for the betterment of others.

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What is this? A fierce bitches convention?

(Source: swanqween)

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candidlycara:

THIS. Probably the one feminist thing I preach like no other. Baby voices are not cute, being a damsel-in-distress on purpose is annoying, and you don’t have to be weak and stupid to be feminine. Every time you dumb yourself down for anything or anyone you’re embarrassing yourself and your entire gender.

Intelligence and independence is sexy. 

This should say “Rule of a Person” because it applies to EVERYONE. Intelligence remains one of the biggest criteria when people are looking for a serious relationship. It also seems to be dispensable to a lot of people. Personally, if I can’t hold an intense conversation with someone there is no point in even starting a relationship with them.

But this is also a big problem for guys but not so much in relationships. It is a tragedy when guys spurn intelligence because they think it is “uncool” or nerdy. In my experience from my school days, those same guys showed me respect because I was smarter than them. And also because I didn’t give anyone a reason to confront me. Actually, I may have been a little intimidating in a battle of words and no one wanted to mess with this. Whatever, the point is, LIVE UP TO YOUR POTENTIAL!

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candidlycara:

Allow me to translate to Carolina.

“Nothing, forget it” - NOTHING FORGET IT. Stop bein’ all up in my grill I GOTZ THIS.

“Are you tired?” - ARE YOU TIRED? You look tired. I think you need a nap. Or a sandwich. 

“I’m okay.” - I’M OKAY.

“I’m cold.” - I’M FUCKING COLD.

“Leave me alone.” - Leave me alone. I probably need a nap or sandwich. Or nap-sandwich combination. 

“I love you.”- I love you!

Hope this was a handy guide for all of you who might be confused. 

Thank God you disagree, Cara! These things annoy me so much. Women get so frustrated at men because “they can’t understand that we say one thing but mean another.” Well here’s a tip for you, TRY SAYING WHAT YOU MEAN! If you’re in a relationship with a guy, he WANTS to help you and provide for you and impress you with his caring side - well, at least I hope he does, if not “that’s a deal breaker” (I have been watching 30 Rock…). Try helping him out.

Another thing. Women love to say “communication is essential to a healthy relationship.” This is very true, so why are you essentially LYING when you say one thing and mean another. GAH!

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MUST WATCH! I made this video for all YouTubers but if you are someone or know someone who uploads videos of themselves to YouTube and has, this is especially for you.

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Is it coincidence or fate that I just made a vlog about called ‘Haters Gonna Hate’ last night… http://youtu.be/8XVxtTAfxM0

wear-that-tie:

drunkscott:

yelyahwilliams:

istillloveparamore:

timothyolyphantisasassybitch:

An average of 5000 girls and boys commit suicide every year due to online harassment/bullying.

Make a change. Think before act.

Bringing others down is a pathetic and cruel.

 People don’t realize how serious online bullying is. Please spread the word and make it stop!

Please reblog!

I feel sorry for them. Really.

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I don’t care whether it’s a joke or whether you actually dislike them enough to want them to die, just don’t do it.

No one should be made to feel like an outcast, or like they’re hated just because they’re different. Ever.

If you don’t like them, avoid them, move on, find people who don’t but don’t go out to attack them. It’s so much easier to do this on the internet too, close the tab, go to a different page but don’t make them feel fucking hated.

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g-violet:

“Guys and girls fall into certain archetypes when they get drunk. Exhibit A: Santana, the weepy, hysterical drunk. Lauren Zizes and Quinn: the angry girl drunks. Brittany also known as the girl who turns into a stripper drunk. Mercedes and Tina: happy girl drunks. And then we come around full circle, right back to you, Rachel. And right now, you’re being the needy girl drunk”.

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